October 3rd, 2010


A Public Service Announcement

If I tell the truth about my desires, will the therapist despise me? Even have me committed?

In a world where some Republicans are trying to recriminalize same-sex relationships, finding a good counselor can feel both dangerous and uncertain if you're LGBTQ or kinky. Most have us have heard over and over that sadists are all serial killers, masochists desperately sick would-be murder victims, and queer folk plotting to recruit innocent people to our wicked cause. We've all heard about brainwashing "cures" for gay and lesbian people. And the recent news of public mockery, hounding, bullying, and suicide remind us that despite some social advances, our struggle to be accepted is not over yet.

When at 14 I first sought help for my mental-health issues, I was told that if I were just a better Christian I wouldn't get depressed. Imagine the reaction I'd have gotten if I'd told the doctor I was bisexual and kinky.

So if you're looking for a counselor who won't tell you you're crazy because you have unconventional desires, check out the kink-aware professionals list.

Too many of us have killed ourselves. We deserve to live. Good therapy can help us accept ourselves, untangle doable fantasies from those best left as daydreams, and form healthy relationships despite society's relentless pressures to conform to the heterosexual norm.

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