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Lifelong Love

James Nicoll recently linked to a discussion on RASFW that meandered into the issue of where to meet a possible mate. The context was not only heterosexual but heterosexist, but it sparked a question in my mind.

So, where did you meet someone who subsequently became a romantic partner? This is all checkboxes, because, unlike Marianne Dashwood and the Vicar of Wakefield, I do believe in second attachments.

Poll #1582139 Where We Met

I've first met a romantic partner...

At school (pre-college)
1(1.0%)
At college or grad school
6(6.1%)
At church, synagogue, or other religious activity
0(0.0%)
Through a club or social activity, such as an SF convention
2(2.0%)
At a party
0(0.0%)
Online through a dating service
0(0.0%)
Online but not through a dating service
5(5.1%)
On public transit
0(0.0%)
At a bar
0(0.0%)
Introduced by friends as a fix-up
0(0.0%)
Introduced by family as a fix-up
0(0.0%)
Introduced by family as a relative
0(0.0%)
Knew from neighborhood where we grew up
0(0.0%)
At work (colleague)
0(0.0%)
At work (customer, client, or other person met via work)
0(0.0%)

The best way to get to know someone is...

Working with them
0(0.0%)
Living with them
0(0.0%)
Getting drunk/high with them
0(0.0%)
Talking with them
0(0.0%)
Reading what they write
0(0.0%)
Watching how they interact with others
1(1.0%)
Watching how they interact with you
0(0.0%)
Looking at their books, music, art, etc.
0(0.0%)
Sex
0(0.0%)
Watching how they deal with their own stress
0(0.0%)
Watching how they deal with your stress
0(0.0%)
Arguing with them
0(0.0%)
Doing taxes together/sharing a checking account
0(0.0%)
Raising kids with them
0(0.0%)
You can never know someone else
1(1.0%)

Once you've left high school, is it harder or easier to meet potential mates?

Harder, because the rest of the world offers fewer single prospects
2(2.1%)
Harder, because it's difficult to get to know people outside an academic setting
1(1.0%)
Easier, because I have more chance now to meet people who share my interests
23(24.0%)
Easier, because everybody is a jerk in high school
17(17.7%)
I dunno
14(14.6%)
Something else, which I will explain in comments
4(4.2%)

Rate your romantic life when you were in high school, where 1=wretched and 10=ecstatic

Mean: 3.02 Median: 3 Std. Dev 2.15
1
33(34.7%)
2
14(14.7%)
3
19(20.0%)
4
8(8.4%)
5
3(3.2%)
6
8(8.4%)
7
8(8.4%)
8
0(0.0%)
9
2(2.1%)
10
0(0.0%)

Rate your romantic life from end of high school to age 30, where 1=wretched and 10=ecstatic

Mean: 6.53 Median: 7 Std. Dev 2.11
1
1(1.0%)
2
2(2.1%)
3
8(8.3%)
4
7(7.3%)
5
10(10.4%)
6
14(14.6%)
7
19(19.8%)
8
19(19.8%)
9
9(9.4%)
10
7(7.3%)

Rate your romantic life from age 30 to 50, where 1=wretched and 10=ecstatic

Mean: 7.72 Median: 8 Std. Dev 1.85
1
0(0.0%)
2
2(2.6%)
3
1(1.3%)
4
2(2.6%)
5
5(6.6%)
6
5(6.6%)
7
9(11.8%)
8
26(34.2%)
9
14(18.4%)
10
12(15.8%)

Rate your romantic life from age 50 on, where 1=wretched and 10=ecstatic

Mean: 7.44 Median: 9 Std. Dev 2.69
1
0(0.0%)
2
1(6.2%)
3
0(0.0%)
4
2(12.5%)
5
2(12.5%)
6
2(12.5%)
7
0(0.0%)
8
0(0.0%)
9
3(18.8%)
10
6(37.5%)


Additional questions to be answered in comments:

Any other ways to meet someone? Or get to know them?

What's the general trend of your romantic life? Any theories about the changes?
Tags: love, poll
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